From Bully to Bestie, 1 fl oz $24.95
Calms down aggressive bullying behavior inflected on other cats in your home. Transforms both male and female bullies.
Do you have a bully cat in your house? Many of us do! The worry is now over, we’ve got the perfect formula just for your bully-cat!
Other species have bullies, just like we encounter too frequently in humans. Often we’ll have a cat who seems to take delight in tormenting all of your cats or one in particular. This could be a reaction to insecurity or jealousy, or a personality trait. The actions of a bully cat are stressful to the picked on cat and to you. It keeps the tension level in your home at an unhealthy high. It can also lead to the picked on cat to not use the litter box and that’s something we do not want!
With compassion towards the bully and an understanding of what it must feel like to have the need to bully and pick on we’ve sensitively and professionally crafted this formula. It addresses a wide variety of reasons and causes while helping the cat find his or her heart and bond with all in the family. Maybe your bully and victim won’t quite become true lovey dovey besties, but the behavior should shift and settle down so that peace is restored. The picked on cat or cats can breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy their life in your loving home.
For the picked upon cat or cats, consider using our Past Abuse formula in tandem with From Bully to Bestie.
NOTE: if the bullying came on suddenly and it’s directed at an older cat please take that cat to vet for a check up. Very often healthy animals will turn on an older sick animal. It’s that ancient survival of the fittest thing which is so unnecessary in our modern times with great health care and good doctors. Sometimes the aggression against one cat is an early sign that something is wrong health wise.
After a too long of a hiatus the 4 oz. bottles of our flower essences formulas for cats are back in stock! Why the long wait? Well, you know how finicky we are about quality! We had a very hard time finding American made bottles (we won’t use the ones from China or Taiwan). At last! We found them! Thank you for patiently waiting!
Here’s an email from a customer whose cat is urinating by the door. And our response that tells how to use Cat Faeries products and other techniques to deal with it.
Dear Cat Faeries,
We have male & female cats. The male is 3 years old and neutered. He is accustomed to going out doors to urinate, however the weather is preventing him from doing that. He is urinating by the door. We have sprayed with a deterrent and he now moved to another area on the rug.
Thank you for your order and your note to us in the Comments area of the order form. We thought we’d answer you in our newsletter as we suspect that you are not the only one this winter having this problem.
With regard to your order:
- You’ll use Comfort Zone with Feliway spray according to our instructions.
- Put the Comfort Zone with Feliway diffusers in the rooms in the house where he’s started to pee on the floor.
- Use Anti Icky Poo to remove the deterrent and urine off the walls and floors near that door. Then place a litter box there for his use until he can resume going outside. Anti Icky Poo literally eats the urine proteins and gases!
- Put a few drops of the flower essence formula in the communal water bowl each time you change it, or once or twice a day.
The deterrent you bought is doing its job – it has deterred your cat from peeing by that door and as you’ve learned the hard way your cat will find other places!
Deterrents are never a good idea and they could contain toxic ingredients. Feliway though is safe and when you follow the instructions that we’ll give you with your order you’ll learn how to use it so the cats don’t pick new naughty locations.
Now this is very important: normally we are very against putting boxes on top of or near all of the places where the cat is peeing. It’s best to create one roomy Kitty Latrine Area where there are a few hoodless litter boxes pushed together to create a large “sand box” with a bag of litter, a scooper, a trash can and a broom handy for your use. A latrine area concentrates the scent of feline urine/feces to one place which is which the cats seek out. If you put litter boxes in other rooms you are telling the cat that it’s ok to pee in all sorts of rooms! And your problem will get worse.
But K.P.’s situation is seasonal. So for the duration of this winter keep a box by the door. When things warm up and he can go outside it’s your choice to keep it there or remove it.
Some of you might take this cold winter as a chance to break your cat’s desire for and habit of going outside. After a few months of being inside cats often forget about going outside. We really feel that cats are healthiest staying indoors.
You’ll be fascinated to learn that our ancestors did sleep, wake up, and then sleep again. A bit like cats, but not all day long, rather overnight.
Long before the Industrial Revolution and the invention of electricity people went “early to bed and early to rise”. And what exactly does that mean? Did they really go to bed early and sleep for hours on end? No.
Our ancestors did not sleep straight through the night, rather they had two nightly sleeps. They would go to bed early and sleep for a few hours, and then they would wake up. Which we modern humans often do, probably our Circadian Rhythms trying to tell us something. So we toss and turn, and feel guilt or anger for not falling back to sleep, they got up and did things, generally quiet things like meditate, pray or read. A few hours later they’d fall back to sleep again for the duration of the night.
Also before the invention of electricity our ancestors slept in complete darkness other than some light from a full moon. There was no light to disturb their sleep or rest. There was no artificial street light or light from electronics to disturb their sleep or rest.
Our cats have their own Circadian Rhythms which are: Sleep. Wake up. Sleep. They do this throughout the day. What’s similar between us and cats is that we aren’t meant to sleep for hours on end.
Doing what you can to flow with human Circadian Rhythm will keep us youthful and disease free. And probably even as agile as a cat.
The article on this link will explain how our ancestors used to sleep. Do read it, it contains a lot of fascinating details about what people did during those wakeful hours at night.
In 1997 when we shifted our focus to Feliway and helping cats get back to the litter box we quickly realized that one of the key triggers that caused stress for many indoor cats which can lead to litter box avoidance was the pesky presence of those cute bushy tailed rodents: squirrels. Squirrels running around outside have sent many a cat over the emotional edge.
Most cats find them to be cheap entertainment. But many cats find squirrels to be very annoying or threats to territory and this can lead to retaliation: peeing outside of the litter box, often right under a window. Even if a sensitive cat never sets foot outside (which is good, keep em indoors!) squirrels run along window sills, up and down trees, they get into bird feeders, and other antics all under the watchful eyes of our indoor cats.
We have long suspected that the quick ways squirrels zip around can really annoy and taunt cats. The defiant flicks of squirrel tails agitates many cats. And then there is that chittering sound they make. Traits that might seem cute to us often really irk and threaten even the most mellow feline.
A very easy solution to help steady your cats’ nerves is the feed squirrels (and birds) out of view from windows and at the farthest place on your property.
You can also install one or two Comfort Zone with Feliway diffusers in the rooms where your cats squirrel-watch. This will do two things:
1) The pheromone is calming to your cat, less fighting among your feline family.
2) The pheromone sends the message: “I don’t pee in this room.”
Your cat will sleep absolutely any place they wish. They look for places which are soft and warm, comfortable and in a safe place. And a safe place can be on a high surface like your bed or a dresser, or on the floor nestled in a pile of clothes.
But those places get moved according to your whim, and they are washed or cleaned frequently. Most cats like a cat bed because they can arrange it to their liking and also that their fur clings to the fibers of a cat bed and their scent both of which are soothing to your cat – much like snuggling into their mother’s tummy to nurse and sleep.
Yes, you will want to wash your Cat Faeries cat beds from time to time! We give you the instructions with your order. Don’t worry if all of the cat fur doesn’t wash out – kitty prefers it that way!